May 17–Job 3-6
“Then Eliphaz the Temanite answered, ‘If one ventures a word with you, will you become impatient? But who can refrain from speaking?”(4:1-2).
I have made this mistake. Often. God forgive me.
A person in pain is asking deep questions of faith, struggling to express the inner turmoil. Rather than offer support in silence, I feel the need to speak. To explain God.
It doesn’t go well. When I try to fix what only God can, the sufferer feels misunderstood. Judged. Criticized. More alone than before. Who can blame him? He now has no place to go, no person to whom he can express his honest questions and emotions. I have robbed him of something God wants him to have. See Psalm 13.
At the end of the story, God’s harshest criticism was not toward Job, but toward his talkative friends. Refusing to face the mystery of evil with required humility, they over-simplified God and became false witnesses. See 42:7.
The New Testament teaches me to, “rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.” It insists that I trust God and respectfully allow every honest question. “Call unto Me and I will answer,” is God’s offer, not mine.
Here is the truth that humbles me, (or should). There are times (many) when the wise path is to stand with those who suffer in silent sympathy and solidarity. No words. Just presence. Sometimes, faith and silence are the same thing.
“The first duty of love is to listen” (Paul Tillich).
“After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you”(1 Peter 5:10, italics mine).